Some more thoughts on love…


Love is kindness, complete acceptance, authentic vulnerable communication, freedom, empathy/compassion, and respect. It is only when you give yourself these things, that you can begin giving them to another.


Love doesn’t mean compromising away your own happiness or comfort.
Love doesn’t ask for sacrifices or obligations to keep another happy.
Love doesn’t require selflessness; it doesn’t ask you to put the needs/desires of others above your own.
Love doesn’t mean never saying you’re sorry.
Love doesn’t mean you can take your stress and bad moods out on another.
Love doesn’t mean you make the other your enemy.
Love doesn’t have defensiveness.
Love doesn’t ask for pity.
Love doesn’t use guilt trips or threats of punishment.
Love doesn’t mean you owe anything, or that anything is owed to you.
Love doesn’t mean worrying or keeping track of the other.
Love doesn’t require obedience or rules.
Love doesn’t hurt another in retaliation when you feel hurt.
Love doesn’t require pain.
Love doesn’t make ultimatums.
Love doesn’t ask you to give up your life’s dreams.
Love doesn’t put your happiness, security, or confidence in another’s hands.
Love doesn’t ask you to be different.
Love doesn’t make you hide aspects of yourself because they are uncomfortable or unpopular.
Love isn’t mean, critical, or sarcastic; it doesn’t use humor to put you down, and it doesn’t make jokes at your expense.
Love doesn’t make you feel small and powerless.
Love doesn’t try to fix you or make you “better.”
Love doesn’t have conditions (“I will love you if…”)
Love has solid boundaries, not selfishness.
Love is not anxious or uncertain.
Love doesn’t seek validation or worthiness in another.
Love doesn’t have expectations or demands.
Love doesn’t keep score.
Love can be ruthless, but when done truthfully and with complete integrity, it’s the most beautiful thing in the world.